Y’all. I have some exciting news. My book,“Mommy’s got a Tramp Stamp,” is going to publish in the next couple weeks. It’s super exciting, so I’ve decided it deserves a teaser. My future blog posts will be some samples from my book! Enjoy.
I asked several moms a question:
How did you feel the first few months after giving birth?
“For me, I feel like, at the hospital, my baby and I didn’t connect right away. I don’t know if it was because I had post preeclampsia. Maybe it was because I was going through stuff and ended up back in the hospital. I don’t feel like I connected with him in the way that I thought all moms should. I feel like it wasn’t until we got home that we really connected, and I felt guilty about that.”
“I felt super emotional. I remember crying a lot. I think part of it was just the weight of the responsibility of having a new baby, but then your hormones are just so f*cked up. Then, I think when that starts happening physiologically, you start beating yourself up. Like, why am I crying? Everyone is expecting me to be so happy right now. It’s just a cluster f*ck of emotion. You feel happy, you’re scared, there’s nothing else like it.”
I was absolutely miserable. I didn’t know how to sleep, and I felt a constant panic. Unfortunately, I felt like I was failing. I don’t know how I survived it, honestly.
-Cassie Pigg
“Overwhelmed and frightened. Frightened would be a good way to describe it. I did have happy times. There were happy moments, but I was mostly exhausted, tired, frightened, and I wanted help. I wanted help from someone. Especially in those first two months, I was so tired, and I didn’t know how to sleep. My mom wanted to help, but I wouldn’t accept it. It was stupid.”
“Where do I start? Awful. I felt a lot of regrets. Like, what did I just do? I was exhausted. I was in pain. I was delirious. I needed help, but I didn’t want to ask for help. I felt like everyone else knew what they were doing. I felt overwhelmed and had anxiety about everything. Sleep. Feeding. It was an out of body experience.”
“Well, I would say that I got so irritated with people. I loved being a mom. I wanted to be with him all the time. I was terrified of germs. I wanted to put him in a bubble and leave him at home. The biggest thing with the first one is that everyone tries to give you advice. I would get so irritated by that. It made me feel like people were attacking me or thinking that I wasn’t doing a good job. Instead of taking it with a grain of salt, I would just get mad.”
“The first few months after birth, well, I had no idea what the hell I was doing. The hospital entrusted me to take care of this precious little being. As a whole, I felt inadequate. Not that this baby was judging me, but overall, I felt inadequate. I breastfed. I did all that shit, but everyone had an opinion.”
What I learned from these ladies…
Each journey is so unique. We each have different experiences when it comes to pregnancy, childbirth, and parenting. As long as we can learn to love and support each other along the way, motherhood has the potential to be the adventure of a lifetime.
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